- Forgiveness is returning to God the right to take care of justice.
- By refusing to transfer the right to exact punishment or revenge, we are telling God we don’t trust him to take care of matters.
- Forgiveness is a process, not an event.
- It might take some time to work through our emotional problems before we can truly forgive. Forgiveness doesn’t happen overnight. However, as soon as we can, we should decide to forgive, but it probably is not going to happen right after a tragic situation. It’s okay.
- We have to forgive every time.
- If we find ourselves constantly forgiving, though, we might need to take a look at the dance we are doing with the other person that sets us up to be continually hurt, attacked, or abused.
- If they don’t repent, we still have to forgive.
- Even if they never ask, we still need to forgive. We should memorize and repeat over and over: Forgiveness is about our attitude, not their action.
- We might forgive too quickly to avoid pain or to manipulate the situation.
- Forgiveness releases pain and frees us from focusing on the other person. Too often when we’re in the midst of the turmoil after a tragedy, we desperately look for a quick fix to make it all go away. Some women want to “hurry up” and forgive so the pain will end, or so they can get along with the other person. We have to be careful not to simply cover our wounds and retard the healing process.
- Forgiveness starts with a mental decision.
- The emotional part of forgiveness is finally being able to let go of the resentment. Emotional healing may or may not follow quickly after we forgive. It takes time.
|“Always forgive your enemies – nothing annoys them so much.” – Oscar Wilde|
|“He who cannot forgive breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass.” – George Herbert|
If Yahweh doesn’t hold onto sin and He throws them away why do we continue to hold onto them, being unforgiving?
There’s another quote that I like that goes like this:
|“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” – Lewis B. Smedes|
Will you set yourself free, now?
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